"Not a single word is uttered by one, but there is a watcher near him, ready (to record)".
Sura Qaf: 18
Prophet Muhammad :msaw: (P.B.U.H.) says: "Do you want me to inform you about the easiest and least straining form of worship? They are being silent and having a good temper."
Also Prophet Muhammad :msaw: (P.B.U.H.) says: "A believer's tongue is located behind his heart. Whenever he wants to talk, he first presents his words to his heart. If the heart approves of what he wants to say it issues an order to the tongue to utter the words. However, if the heart does not issue a permit, then the lips stay sealed. But a hypocrite's tongue is the leader of his heart. Whenever he wills to say something, he utters it without the approval of his heart."
Prophet Muhammad :msaw: (P.B.U.H.) said: "Among all things, the tongue deserves to be prisoned longer than anything else."
(Because most unnecessary talks leads to sins, such as backbiting, telling lies, defaming, mocking, insulting, gossiping etc.)
One Sahabi (RA) said, “The questions people ask me are to them just as cold water is to a thirsty person. For me too, to answer such questions are similarly exhilarating. However, I become quiet in fear that while answering to those queries, my words may be superfluous.”
Is an argument best way to resolve disputes???…….. I used to have a lot of arguments with my friends on and off ……
Sometimes, those arguments continued for days……
Once….. I had a strong debate with this very nice person……. I gave detailed answers to almost all his questions…….
But it was time when I realized that I ended up making the person more stubborn…..
Because to proof his point right…… he studied more things against my point……..
Anyway, I gave pretty good answers….. and made him turn to silence……
I won the argument!!!................... But deep inside…… I had a feeling that I lost to win his heart…….
What I wanted was to convince him and to make him belief…… which I was unable to….. because the arguments involved the Egos ………….
And then it was our egos we wanted to protect…… and not the concept……
“Talk less…… influence more…..”
A Good Story I would like to share:
The train has started moving. It is packed with people of all ages, mostly with the working men and women and young college boys and girls. Near the window seated an old man with his thirty year old son. As the train moves by, the son is overwhelmed with joy as he was thrilled with the scenery outside.
"See dad, the scenery of green trees moving away is very beautiful."
This behaviour from a thirty year old son made the other people feel strange about him. Every one started murmuring something or other about this thirty year old son. "This person seems to be mad," a newlywed man whispered to his wife.
Suddenly it started raining. Rain drops fell on the travelers through the open window. The thirty year old son, filled with joy said to his father, "See dad, how beautiful the rain is."
The newly married man's wife was irritated with the rain drops spoiling her new suit.
The husband said to the father, "can't you see its raining you old man, if your son is not well, then get him soon to a mental asylum and do not disturb the public henceforth."
The old man hesitated at first and then in a low tone replied, "We are on the way back from the hospital. My son got discharged this morning. He was blind from birth. Last week, he got his vision. The rain and nature are all new to his eyes. Please forgive us for the inconvenience that we may have caused."
The things we see may be right from our perspective until we know the truth. But when we know the truth our reaction to that will hurt even us. So try to understand the problem better before taking a harsh action.
Choose your words wisely
If it was not for our ability to speak……… we would communicate like animals…… There would be no more discussing, explaining and understanding amongst us……
We introduces our own personality…… when we speak…… Our dialogue clearly expresses our inner purity or wickedness……
One can tell whether you are a good or a corrupt person through your speech…… Our speech reflects our thoughts and mentality
"A man is hidden behind his tongue."
"Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people”
Learn to control the tongue….. as it is gets vulnerable more than any other body part…..
There is a certain stress placed on silence in some traditions…… including Islam…… This stress is such that we can prefer silence to speaking………
What is the philosophy behind this silence? When is it recommended?
A person must ask himself before saying anything: "Is there any need for me to talk?"……… If there is a need, then it is fine to talk. Otherwise, silence is better……
Sometimes,… we get involved in controversial discussions…… if we lie about it we win the argument but lose the God…… if we say truth we end up in arguments making others more stubborn…… so its better to keep silent… and save the words for some suitable time……
We could remain secure from the committing a sin in talking……… by remaining silent……
Hazrat Ali (Ra) said: "A wise man first thinks and then speaks, and a fool speaks and then thinks."
Hazrat Ali (Ra) said: "One who is quick in saying unpleasant things about others, will himself quickly become a target to their scandal."
Hazrat Ali (Ra) said: "One who has no control over his tongue will often have to face embarrassment and discomfort."
What corrupts the tongue? 01 - Talking in vain or useless
("if what you want to tell me is neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?")
02 - Bad Talk
03 – Arguing without willing to accept each other’s point
04 - Cursing
05 – Backbiting
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